Why?

When I got a job at social services, I had to attend a lot of training. During one of the trainings on investigation procedure, the trainer asked what questions we would want to ask. Everyone came up with the common...who, what, when, where, how...and one person said why. The trainer jumped on this. "You never ask a child why. There is no way you can phrase a why question that won't be perceived as an accusation." I thought this was interesting and true. But I thought there are other reasons you don't ask 'why'.

I don't ask "why" because I don't want to know the answer. "Why did you do that?" I think if I got the answer it would be worse than the wondering I do now.

I don't ask "why" because I know the answer, but I don't want to admit it. "Why is this so important to you?" I know because I may want the same thing, but don't want to admit that I do because I know I will never have it.

I don't ask "why" because there is no answer. "Why are people so hurtful to others?" There's no good answer to those kinds of questions and you can drive yourself crazy trying to figure them out.

You're probably reading this and going "Huh???" or may be thinking "I so get this.". Which ever I hope that you are able to figure out why.